My clients are fully healed

From the idea of being fully healed, because yes, healing is a journey.

It’s not about focusing on the destination but on the direction we're heading, with full acceptance of who we are.

So, what does healing mean?

This has been a recurring theme in my coaching sessions lately. It's still amazing to me how each client connects with themselves and shares similar experiences, even though they don't know each other as I keep their sessions confidential. It’s incredible to witness their paths crossing at the same time, yet with different people.

so….(again) WHAT THE F**K HEALING MEAN FEDERICA?

Here you are… :

Imagine it as a mountain, where you start walking, then climbing, then walking again. Sometimes you stop and observe all around you. Sometimes you stumble, but you stand up again. Sometimes you take a step forward, and sometimes backward. But when you go backward, you remember the soil, the road, the scenery around you. It might look scary again, but you know where it comes from, you know how it's made. You just go back on the same road but with awareness, and then you continue. You arrive at the top, and it looks amazing. You feel good, like nothing bad is going to happen. There’s peace, there’s beauty, you are in the present moment. You feel the breeze, you see the sky...

But at a certain point, you look down and see people walking, a village, a nice café. You think, “Oh my god, I miss that,” so you start walking down the other side, maybe even running because you can’t wait to get back to a community, to people. When you run, you feel free. You arrive again where you started, and things feel different. The café you were looking at from the top is still nice, but now you don’t just notice the nice sign, you notice everything around it. You go in, get curious, and start asking yourself, “Do I feel safe here?” You connect with your body, and it tells you, “Hmm… let’s go to another place.” As you leave, you realize the waiters weren’t very welcoming or considerate. So you decide to go to a nice restaurant. When you go in, you get curious again. You observe and see more smiles than before, so you decide to sit and give it a try.

After 10 minutes, a beautiful woman with amazing hair and super cool clothes comes in. She is really talkative and cheerful, saying “hi” to everyone. You get curious and start observing, fascinated by her behavior, her style, her beauty. But after a while, you notice she’s not very patient ,little bit rude with the staff and talks only about herself. If before your body was signaling “a new friend! Go and know her,” now you take a step back and continue observing…

But overall, your experience in this restaurant is really good. You are having an amazing lunch, and the staff is pretty welcoming. Then another beautiful woman comes in, and everyone starts looking at her. She is stunning and sexy, wearing the latest cool look from The Attico (sorry, I am an ex-fashion photographer), and you think, “Oh my god, wow!” But inside, some inner critic starts to speak up: “Am I okay? I’m still wearing my trekking outfit, oh my god, my hair is horrible, I didn’t do my nails, and I’m not even wearing makeup!  no one will ever look at me.” You start feeling anxious, but then you connect with your body and ask yourself, “Oh… is this sensation familiar to me?” You realize that yes, it’s very familiar. It’s the same sensation you had as a child when one of your caregivers made you feel uncomfortable when your best friend came to visit, making it feel like a competition of who’s best.

So, you decide to address your inner critic and ask it to take a step back, allowing your compassionate part to come forward. You remember yourself as a child, criticized for no reason, just because you were a child and deserved a safe place to feel authentic, which you didn’t have. As you remember that moment and connect with this inner wounded part of you, you apologize to yourself for being so self-critical. You realize that, yes, you might be a little tired after all this trekking, but something has changed, and it’s not just on the outside but, above all, from the inside.

As you walk away from the restaurant, you notice a mirror and see that you’re not wearing the best outfit, but you also notice something has changed. Your face is more relaxed, your posture is straighter, and even your skin is more glowing! Seeing yourself in the mirror after a long time makes you realize that the change was not just from the inside but also from the outside. These small details give you confidence and a delightful feeling.

Long story short, as you were coming out of the restaurant, you had an encounter with a long-term customer who was really nice to you. While speaking with him, you felt an immediate special connection. You decided to have a coffee outside the restaurant, and as you sat with him, you started talking about many different things. He was as curious about you as you were about him; there was reciprocity and curiosity. Then you asked him if he knew the girl who had come in, and if she was famous or something because you had noticed her beauty. He told you that yes, he knew her and that she was the ex-girlfriend of his friend. He added that he wasn't a huge fan of hers. Shyly, you asked why, without being too invasive, and he replied: "I don’t think the details are really important, but she unfortunately lacks humility, integrity, and compassion for others. She was disrespectful to him."

You then remembered the moment she came into the restaurant and realized how much your thoughts had betrayed you, but your body never lies. You told your new friend that you actually felt something in your body when you saw her. This new encounter on a casual day at the restaurant has become a lasting friendship, still strong after five years. You still remember the moment you met him, coming from a long solo healing trek where you faced all your shadows. You were pretty exhausted but felt in full acceptance of your body, mind, and soul.

Sometimes you went back to the peak, but most of the time you were , where you met your friend, maybe in the same restaurant, with a different environment and a different “you” , your authentic self.

That was a short metaphor for what healing is. It’s not about reaching the top, the peak, and trying to stay there forever—that’s an utopia. The world is all around us, and we can’t escape the flows of life. We can’t run away from bad people, but we can choose who we want to be around. We can’t live in a constant state of happiness because it doesn’t exist, but we can decide to live in full acceptance.

This is my small letter for you and your healing:

I love you. I love you in your flaws, I love you when you are high on life and when you are down in life. I love you when you dance like no one is watching, and I love you when you cry because you are not scared of your vulnerability. I love you when you stand up for yourself, when you can say “no” with no regrets, when you show your values in life, and when you choose friends that are a safe place, choosing from a place of awareness instead of excitement.

I love you when you feel stress but still find the strength to believe you will come out of it even stronger. I love you when you connect to your body and listen to your intuition. I love you when you listen to your emotions, connecting with them in your body and soul.

Remember: Healing is not about becoming perfect; it’s about accepting your imperfections. Healing is not about the destination; it’s about the direction. Healing is about accepting your wounds and your past with compassion.

Healing is never-ending.

And that’s okay.

And what am I here for? I am here to hold your hand as I guide you through this mountain. I am here when you stumble, and I am also here to hug you when you finally feel that acceptance and are ready to move forward. I am not a huge fan of codependency (italian humor) , so my aim is to empower you and show you the road, so that you can confidently continue your journey independently and live the life you deserve.